It is believed that relationships complete a person. Arranging a personal life is a big job that needs to be given a sufficient amount of time. Happy couples who have seized the luck of a relationship by the tail love to share success with everyone around them: they take over social networks, constantly insert unsolicited facts about a partner into conversations, and sometimes send photos with radiant smiles on their faces in love.
Such couples are always in sight and are in no hurry to disappear from the stage of the theater of well-being, but there are others – they keep their relationship in the strictest confidence, slowly revealing even the name of a partner to the outside world.
The reasons for such espionage games can be different: existing title relationships, religious restrictions, banal fear. In any case, maintaining such a connection is extremely laborious and sometimes dangerous. We have compiled a little memo on secret relationships for you.
The most important thing in a secret relationship is the statute of secrecy. All the nuances, details and possible outcomes are best identified in advance. Together with your partner, determine the reasons, boundaries and rights of each, so that later it will not be excruciatingly painful. If you’re a fan of detail, you can even sign a small piece of paper.
Channels of connection
Remember – the further you hide the traces of such relationships, the better. Therefore, you should not recklessly start a chat in that messenger or social network where you have all your friends: from your mother to the secretary at work. Find a channel that is not very popular: Snapchat with disappearing messages, WeChat with a predominant number of users from China, and so on. No matter what you are hiding, special craftsmen will always find a way to catch you in a highly visible place.
Probably, your secret partner is quite aware of the secrecy of your relationship. That is why it is worth playing it safe and agreeing on masks and covers. Develop plans to divert eyes – fake dates, slight hints to acquaintances to actively search, accidentally dropped names and details. All this should lead curious onlookers in the other direction, and save you from the danger of being discovered.
If you are separated by distance or social circles, then you are rather lucky – it is much easier to choose a neutral territory for meetings, you can even go on a date outside the home. Another thing is when secret relationships occur within a limited circle. Strongly hiding or literally bypassing each other, you can raise even more questions. Try to keep casual in everyday contacts.
As much as you’d like to document your moments with your partner, there’s nothing worse than leaving evidence in your own hand. Since life pushed you on such a dangerous adventure, it means that there was a point in it. Try to keep more and more in memory than in the film of your smartphone or on paper.
Prepare a million possible reasons why you can’t attend any of the events. Lying the same lie every time is fatal, someone very meticulous will pay attention to it, and your secret will be in jeopardy.
The secret always burns from the inside, it is extremely desirable to share it. Therefore, be especially careful during emotional conversations over publicly available truth serum. In a burst of honesty, you can tell what you managed to hide for quite a long time. A given secret always grows into public information in a matter of hours.